I am a problem solver. I want to see problems solved. In my experience, it doesn’t take nearly as much effort or talent to identify a problem as it does to solve a problem. I may not solve the problem, but I will find the resources to help bring the needed resolution.
The issue arises when it is something that is beyond my control or ability to resolve. In those situations, when I am unable to fix the problem, how should I respond? Here are four things that may help you the next time you find yourself in a situation that is beyond your control.
Do What I Can Do
I always have a responsibility. It may only be how I respond to the situation, but there is still something I can do. Sometimes when we can’t wholly resolve a problem, we default to doing nothing. That is never acceptable. You can rest in knowing that you have done everything you know to do.
As a person of faith, this is a vital part of my response to any situation. Even if I can control and work out the issue, prayer is necessary to make that happen. In the times that I cannot solve the problem, prayer gives me peace in my own heart that God will work things out.
For many, their first instinct is to abandon ship in the face of trouble. People walk away from relationships, jobs, churches, and dreams because things do not turn out exactly as they expected. The only way to achieve real success in life is to walk in the right direction long enough. There are some situations you may need to abandon, but most of the time, what you need is the fortitude to stick it out.
There is a saying, “time heals all wounds.” I am not sure that is entirely accurate, but I am sure that many situations can resolve in time. Not only do you need the fortitude not to run, but you need the patience to allow things to work themselves out. Sometimes what you thought was a problem needing fixing, in reality, is a shift that needs to occur for you to succeed. Patience is a virtue, and it requires practice.
There will be things in your future that you want to fix but do not have the ability to do so. Practice these four things. It may not fix it, but it will undoubtedly help you.