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3 Things I Am Thankful For This Year

Thanksgiving provides a time of reflection for the things in our lives. This year has provided plenty of opportunities to complain or not be thankful. We have dealt with many things beyond our control, and there was very little we could do to prevent or change them. But everything is not bad. As a matter of fact, there are probably some areas of your life that are flourishing despite the difficulties faced in other places.

I have found this to be true in my life. Some things have been challenging. Very challenging. I have had to work through situations I did not expect nor want to deal with again. But at the same time, some things in my life are better than ever, and I would not want Thanksgiving to pass without acknowledging those.


Strength In My Marriage

One of the things that have happened this year is the challenges I have faced have made my marriage stronger. We are talking more. We are focusing more on the important things and ignoring the insignificant things. We have used circumstances as a springboard for conversations that protect our relationship. We are praying more together. Our time together has been well spent this year. Marriages are never perfect, but they should always be getting better. I am thankful for our growth this year. 

Favor In My Finances

As I wind down the year, I will close on my business’s sale at the end of December. In the middle of a pandemic, this will be the best year we have ever had. I had a goal to be free of all personal debt by the time I sold the business. That is going to happen. We recently paid off our home and only have one more obligation to clear up before the end of the year. That is something that I used to only exist in my dreams. The freedom this creates for our family will matter for generations.

Commitment Of My Church

Pastoring has been difficult everywhere during the pandemic. Some churches will never reopen. Many churches suffered financially. Our church faced a couple of additional circumstances that were unexpected and heartbreaking. Through all of it, the church has rallied and continued to make things happen. Giving has been up. Volunteers have stepped up to fill unexpected vacancies. The atmosphere in worship has been great. Those who cannot come to the building are engaged online. Besides, two major accomplishments happened: the completion of a new preschool and the purchase of land for our second campus. I am thankful to be a part of such a great church.

I encourage you to think about the blessed areas of your life. Don’t allow the distractions going on around us to keep you from appreciating the good that is still happening despite it. I feel confident you have places that are flourishing during this season as well. 

4 Things You Will Probably Not See Me Do

One of the challenges of being a public figure is that viewers do not know everything about you. Many people only see me on stage or in a video and never know certain things about me. I tend not to shy away from transparency, but people cannot download all things about me at one time. 

Recently someone asked me a question about dressing up at Halloween, and they were surprised by the answer. As a kid, we were allowed to dress up and get candy. The costume couldn’t be evil, but we still participated with our friends. They told me that they would have lost a bet on that answer.

There have been other times when people have been surprised by an answer because they made assumptions about me. So I thought I might share a few things about me that you will most likely never see me do. Here they are – just for fun!

Have a Political Sign In My Yard

Your first question might be: do I vote? The answer to that is yes. I voted for the first time in 1986, and I do not think I have missed a presidential election since then. I also have opinions about candidates and preferences about beliefs and platforms. However, I choose to use my influence and platform for things that I consider more important. I never want to compromise my ability to lead someone to Christ because I decided to promote a person. One of the things you will most likely not see me do is put a political sign in my yard or a sticker on my car, or a flag on my porch. I am fine if you do. The choice for me is to focus elsewhere.

Wear Skinny Jeans

This is easy. I am old. I am a little overweight. I have long legs. I have big feet. There is nothing about skinny jeans with that combination that is attractive. I stay in my clothing line.

Cut Grass

Some people love working in the yard like my wife. I get no enjoyment out of it. Yes, I used to cut my grass. But I found that I didn’t enjoy it, and I could focus my time and energy on something more productive for my life, and often profitable, and allow someone who enjoyed cutting grass to take care of that for me. It works out better for both.

Watch Sci-Fi

When I was in the 5th grade, Star Wars came out. My school teacher was into Sci-Fi. That is all she wanted to talk about and read the entire year for the class. I didn’t like it then, and I don’t like it now. I am much more likely to read non-fiction than fiction. The same is true of watching a movie. I am not knocking it. I just don’t enjoy it. So I miss all of the Star Wars references that people make. It is just not my thing.

Now you know a little more about me. Maybe we have something in common, or perhaps you think I am weird. Either way, you know me a little better. Understanding people and still loving them is a goal we must all strive to achieve. I will share a few more of these insights over the next few weeks. 

3 Obstacles To Being Generous

Everyone wants to believe they are generous. Very few people are. We intend to be generous, but things keep us from really living a life of generosity.

If you want to be more generous, but are struggling, you are not alone. There are plenty of other people in the same situation. Things block us from being generous, things that we give very little thought.

The world would be a better place if we all practiced being generous. If we can understand what gets in our way, It may help us overcome them. Here are three obstacles to being generous.

We Are Naturally Selfish
From birth, our natural inclination is to be selfish. Before we can speak, we learn to get what we want by crying. Sometimes it is our survival instinct. More times than not, it is our selfish instinct. We want what is in our best interest.

Being a generous person means we are giving up something that we could use for ourselves. It could be money or time, but our natural desire is to use those things like we choose for our pleasure or benefit.

Generosity goes directly against that selfish instinct. Generosity changes us more than it changes the receiver.

We Overspend
Overspending may be the number one culprit in modern culture to practicing generosity. An overwhelming majority of Americans live paycheck to paycheck. We are in massive amounts of debt, from houses to cars to credit cards and student loans. We make purchases based on a payment instead of the actual cost, and we stretch ourselves to where we have nothing left.

When we stretch ourselves financially, it is difficult for us to consider giving anything to anyone at any time.

If we would learn to have margin in our budget, we could be generous when we needed to be without hurting our financial situation.

We Overanalyze
How are they going to spend it? They might waste it. I would use it differently. That is not what I would have done. We think we know better, so we choose not to give.

Rarely do we get to be generous while also deciding how someone will use it. Generosity is about our heart, not theirs. We can’t control individuals or organizations.

We should be sensible without being selfish. One of the reasons we need to give is to get over selfishness.

Be aware of the things that are holding you back from being generous. Awareness can give you the pathway to overcoming these obstacles. A generous world will be a better world.

3 Ways To Help People In Need

Generosity should be a characteristic of every follower of Christ. Every person has different challenges when it comes to being generous. It is easy to find a way to talk ourselves out of being generous. Some of the excuses I hear are things like:

  • I may need this later
  • They are going to waste it
  • They don’t need it
  • They can get help from the government
  • They are lazy

You are not alone if you have used any of these rationalizations not to help someone in need. Occasionally they may be accurate. But generosity is more about the heart of the giver than the receiver. One of the biggest reasons we do not help others is that we feel like we do not have enough to solve the problem, or we do not have extra resources to give anything away. If you find yourself in a situation where you are struggling to be generous, think about these three ways to help people in need.

Give Them What You Have

They may be asking for money, and you may not have any extra money. But most of us have extra things. We usually have an abundance of food we can offer. We may have something that we could sell to help the situation, or we might consider giving them something that they could sell to raise money. It could be as simple as taking them to work or taking their kids to school. If you have it, it is much easier to give. Helping someone in need is not always about exchanging cash. Most people I know have more things than they need. Be creative, as my mom says. “There is more than one way to skin a cat.” 

Teach Them What You Know

Knowledge is valuable. You may not have extra cash, but you certainly know some valuable things. You might have a skill that would improve their chances of getting a job if you taught them. You may be able to repair something that is broken instead of paying for it to be done. You may know how to create and live by a budget, and teaching them could very well solve most of their problems. You can teach someone how to prepare for a job interview. The list of things that you can teach others is endless. You know something they do not. Teach them. It very well may be the thing that solves their problem long term.

Take Them Where You Go

Barbara and I enjoy taking people’s places. There are things that people learn just by changing their location. Changing locations can create a perspective needed for solving problems. Take someone out with you on your boat or when you go shopping. They may see something, hear something, or meet someone that will be exactly what they need to improve their situation. Being the facilitator is essential. It usually costs nothing to bring people along on your journey. You are probably helping them more than you realize.

Don’t get trapped in a negative cycle that keeps you from being generous. There is a multitude of ways you can help people who are in need. Generosity benefits the giver more than the receiver. It breaks selfish traits that make us more like Christ. Practice generosity today.

Fights, Races, and Temptations

Recently I was preparing for a sermon and a funeral where the same verses in the Bible would be appropriate for both. The verse is found in 2 Timothy 4:7 ESV “I have fought the good fight, I finished the race, I have kept the faith.” The writer is near the end of his life and is indicating that he has finished the work he was created to do. He was ready to die.

The application in my sermon and the application at the funeral were slightly different. For the funeral, I was reflecting on how faithful the person had been even in the most difficult of situations. Throughout a life of 100 years, he had worked to live on purpose and to fulfill God’s call on his life. In the sermon, I was reminding people of the challenges that lie ahead in the life of a believer.

That is what I want to address here. The obstacles to being faithful to your purpose and calling in this life. He mentions three specific things: a fight, a race and remaining faithful.


A Fight
A fight indicates an intense struggle. It involves confrontation. There may be blows exchanged and weapons used. Fights usually do not last a long time but they require focused strength for short periods of time. They are usually intense. One of the parties usually comes out the victor. Occasionally there is a draw. Rarely does one party walk away without wounds or scars.

Life will bring its share of fights. Intense moments of conflict that challenge our strength and resolve to overcome. We leave these times weary and tired and sometimes with scars that follow us the rest of our lives. There is no way to avoid the fights of life. The only thing we can do is be prepared for the fight. Lack of preparation will usually lead to defeat, or at the very least bring damage to our lives that we could have avoided. Strength to fight is critical. Fighting too much can be deadly. But understanding there are battles to face on your journey will assist you in overcoming.

A Race
Just as with fighting, racing requires preparation. The Bible speaks frequently about endurance. Distance races require high endurance. Training and preparation on the front side followed by a determination to overcome pain and inconvenience to complete the race on the back. In a long distance race, there will be many times when your body and mind will tell you to quit. It is in those moments that perseverance and endurance must win out.

Some days are easy. Other days are challenging. The race of life will have moments when the ground is level, the breeze is blowing and you are cruising. There will be other times when things feel like a steep hill with the sun blazing. Completing the race of life requires you to overcome the moments when quitting appears easier. The times when it doesn’t seem worth all the work and the moments when everything in you says stop. Matthew 24:13 tells us that the one who perseveres to the end shall be saved. Anyone can quit. It takes endurance and perseverance to finish the race.

Faithfulness is constant, long standing commitment to something that you have pledged yourself to. The easiest illustration is marriage. Marriage demonstrates our willingness to remain faithful to a covenant we have made a vow to. The value of faithfulness is seen in the long term benefits of remaining steadfast. When you see someone who remains faithful to anything over a long period of time, it does not indicate they were never tempted to change direction or to quit. It just signifies they made a choice one time and then continually repeated that choice over a long period of time.

When it comes to following Christ and living a life that remains faithful, it will require a decision to start in that direction and continued decisions to fulfill that commitment over an entire life. There will be many temptations. Temptations to turn away. Temptations to disobey. It is in those moments when the decision to remain faithful must be reaffirmed and the choice made again to do what needs to be done. Remaining faithful, or keeping the faith, will require the same decision to be repeated numerous times throughout your life.

It is in the end when we see the value of these things. It is sometimes difficult to see the benefit of fighting a good fight, running a race and remaining faithful throughout our lives. But as we near the end, we can see the importance of following through in these areas. Funerals are much easier for people who have fought well, ran well and remained faithful. Make that your life determination.

4 Things To Do When You Can’t Fix It

I am a problem solver. I want to see problems solved. In my experience, it doesn’t take nearly as much effort or talent to identify a problem as it does to solve a problem. I may not solve the problem, but I will find the resources to help bring the needed resolution. 

The issue arises when it is something that is beyond my control or ability to resolve. In those situations, when I am unable to fix the problem, how should I respond? Here are four things that may help you the next time you find yourself in a situation that is beyond your control.



Do What I Can Do

I always have a responsibility. It may only be how I respond to the situation, but there is still something I can do. Sometimes when we can’t wholly resolve a problem, we default to doing nothing. That is never acceptable. You can rest in knowing that you have done everything you know to do.


As a person of faith, this is a vital part of my response to any situation. Even if I can control and work out the issue, prayer is necessary to make that happen. In the times that I cannot solve the problem, prayer gives me peace in my own heart that God will work things out.

Don’t Run

For many, their first instinct is to abandon ship in the face of trouble. People walk away from relationships, jobs, churches, and dreams because things do not turn out exactly as they expected. The only way to achieve real success in life is to walk in the right direction long enough. There are some situations you may need to abandon, but most of the time, what you need is the fortitude to stick it out. 

Be Patient

There is a saying, “time heals all wounds.” I am not sure that is entirely accurate, but I am sure that many situations can resolve in time. Not only do you need the fortitude not to run, but you need the patience to allow things to work themselves out. Sometimes what you thought was a problem needing fixing, in reality, is a shift that needs to occur for you to succeed. Patience is a virtue, and it requires practice.

There will be things in your future that you want to fix but do not have the ability to do so. Practice these four things. It may not fix it, but it will undoubtedly help you.

Staff Retreat Thoughts

We recently had our annual church staff retreat. Each year we rent a house somewhere, and our families spend a week together. We eat together. Play together. Pray together. Work together. Most of our general planning and vision casting for the coming year happens during this week.

More often than not I am one of the first ones to leave at the end of the week. I usually have something back home requiring my attention. This year I had planned a couple of days off following the retreat. I had not been away from church on a Sunday since February. That is a really long stretch for me. Even though I didn’t preach every Sunday during the pandemic, I felt I needed to be there. Having the extra couple of days allowed me to reflect on some things from the previous week. Here are four of them I want to share with you.


What If We Lived With The People We Work With?

We usually live in the same community or town with our co-workers, but rarely do we live under the same roof. When work was over each day, there were the same people. There are things that can only be learned in the closeness of living under the same roof. There are considerations that must be given that might not happen otherwise. Conversations take place that only happens in a home environment. There are things we learn about one another that help us adjust the way we work with them. I am not suggesting we should, but living with the people we work with would certainly change the work environment. 

Watching Children Bond Is A Teaching Moment

Children are all about having fun. Watching them spend a week together and the dynamics of their early relationship development could teach us as adults. They are not without conflict, but they are without grudges and bitterness. The adults are more likely to hold grudges about something with their children than the children are. As adults, we could learn to have more fun and get over things quickly. 

I Missed Them When They Were Gone

Before leaving, one of the little girls came and hugged my neck and told me bye. As she walked away, I thought about how I would miss having them around the house playing after they left. A couple of my grandchildren were there, and I knew I would miss them. What I realized is that I missed everyone. I missed the noise. I missed the laughter. I missed the meals and conversations. I work with these people, but I also love these people. We were meant to be in relationship with each other. Isolation is dangerous. It doesn’t take a long look around to find the dangers of loneliness. 

Worship Is A Bond

We have been doing a time of prayer and worship live on Facebook each Wednesday evening. Since we were all together, we decided to gather around a piano in the house and sing together and pray. It was a powerful moment. A single focus of worship overcame job titles and responsibilities. It overpowered differences of opinion and expectations. Worshipping together brought us together in a way that nothing else could. It just reinforced one of the things we had to talk about during our meetings.

I encourage you to take time to reflect on things in your life. Don’t walk away from a conference or a retreat and check it off your list. You will benefit very little if you do. Take the time to allow certain things to rise to the top and then see how you should move forward. 

5 Tough Questions Families Are Facing Today

The current times are putting enormous pressure on families. Calls to counselors, divorce attorneys, and domestic violence hotlines are on the rise. Everyone is navigating new territory every day. That is evident in the family unit. 

Families have had to adapt to schools closing, job furloughs, and summer plans changing. Many are frustrated by the rapidly changing landscape. Families have so many decisions to make, and all of them have consequences. Family units are asking questions and struggling to find the right answers. Even the smartest people in the world appear to be guessing. Here are five questions I am hearing families are trying to work through. 



Do I Send My Children Back To School?

For some families, this is not an option because their school system is not returning to in-person learning. Other school systems are allowing parents to choose between in-person education and remote learning. This puts parents in a difficult spot. In a home where both parents work, there is concern about who will take care of and teach them. This decision creates even more questions like “Will they be safe in the school environment?” or “What will they miss by learning from home?” This question creates a tough decision for parents that has long term implications.

Is The Financial Model Of Our Family Healthy?

The most recent statistics suggest that 78% of American families live paycheck to paycheck. If one of them loses their job or needs to be home with a child for education purposes, those families have no idea how they will survive. Is there a better way to move forward in making choices beneficial for our family? This may be the time to pursue becoming debt-free or to adjust your budget. Financial flexibility is critical in uncertain times.

Who Do I Trust For Guidance?

As I mentioned earlier, even the most brilliant minds seem to be guessing right now. What was a fact yesterday has changed because of a new discovery or a different understanding? Add to that the people who are intentionally trying to mislead people. We have access to so much information. Virtually anyone can post information and make it look like official news. Almost every voice has a certain angle they want to promote, which compromises their integrity. Having the discernment to know which voices to guide you is a challenge for every family unit. 

What Does The Future Look Like?

“I can’t wait for things to get back to normal” is the cry of everyone. No one knows when that will be or what “normal” will look like when it does. Is remote learning here to stay? Will I have a job in the future. Are certain parts of our culture changing? We want to plan for the future, but it seems less predictable than ever.

What Does All Of This Mean?

The virus. Racial tensions. Political division. Murder hornets. Saharan dust clouds. This is an endless list. All of these things seem to be converging at once. What does it all mean? Is it the end of the world as we know it? Are their spiritual implications? Is this the end times? We should be learning from every situation. There is something for us to walk away with from all of these circumstances. No one can tell you how things will turn out or what the result will be. What we can do is be open to learning so that whatever the result is, we are prepared. I can’t tell you what everything means. I can tell you that I must keep learning and growing. 

What questions are you asking right now? How are these times affecting your family? I would love to hear from you.

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About Me

I currently serve as Lead Pastor at Open Door Church and I am a certified trainer & coach with the John Maxwell Team. I am also an Associate Trainer with EQUIP training leaders around the world. I currently own two businesses related to the foodservice equipment industry. I am a certified speaker, teacher and coach with the John Maxwell Team. I can offer you workshops, seminars, keynote speaking, and coaching, aiding your personal and professional growth through study and practical application of John’s proven leadership methods. Working together, I will move you and/or your team or organization in the desired direction to reach your goals.