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Ways To Bring Clarity To Your Prayers

People will often ask if God hears their prayers and if He does, why is He not answering. There are a lot of responses to offer. First, silence is an answer. Whether you are dealing with people or you are talking spiritually, saying nothing says something. Second, some of our requests or prayers may just be so off base that there is no need to answer. There are many verses in the Bible that talk about how God will give us what we ask for but almost always there is some qualifier in the verse or very close by. For example, it says that He hears those prayers that are pleasing to Him. He hears the prayers of those who are living a godly life. James says that sometimes we don’t have because we have not asked while other times we have asked with the wrong motive or asked for the wrong thing.

So then the question becomes more about how our prayers can be more answerable. How can we know they are heard and when should we expect a positive answer? I believe there are some things we can do that will increase the clarity and accuracy of our prayers.

Spend Time In His Word
Jesus said in John 15:7 “But if you remain in me and my words remain in you, you may ask for anything you want, and it will be granted!”. First, where are you in relation to Jesus? Second, are His words inside of you? Spending more time reading God’s Word brings greater clarity to truth and His desires for our life. The Word of God is your greatest tool in bringing clarity to your prayers.

Listen When You Pray
When I get down to pray I keep a notepad nearby. For one thing, everything I have forgotten to do in the last 10 years suddenly floods my mind. I write them down so I can continue praying. The main reason though is to write down what I sense in my spirit while I am being quiet. If prayer is an opportunity to commune with God, we need to give Him time to work in us during the process. Just being quiet during your prayer time can often bring clarity to the request you want to make.

I am a firm believer that you never know until you ask. My wife was just sharing today about how they were stuck in JFK Airport overnight. They had been traveling for a long time and the overnight stay in the airport was unexpected. They ate a meal at a diner and one of their team said these booths would be better than sleeping on the floor. So they asked the manager if they could sleep there. Keep in mind the diner was still open. He said he did not know why not so they closed off that area and the team went to sleep. You never know until you ask. Remember that James said we don’t have at times because we just have not asked. As you practice asking, you will begin to learn more about God and it will clarify your requests and your prayer life.
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Prayer is not a magic potion or something left for only those who have a title. Praying is for all of us and all of us have requests that we need to take to God. Bringing clarity to your prayer life will make praying much easier and more fruitful.

4 Observations About NASA and the Johnson Space Center

On our recent trip, one of the places we visited was the Johnson Space Center in Houston. I had seen one of the space shuttles in 1984 at the World’s Fair in New Orleans but had never been to a space facility. There is so much to see in this world and so many spectacular things taking place. It is one of the things that makes traveling enjoyable.

As with any tour, we were given a lot of information and were able to see some of the things that are happening behind the scenes. We took two tours while we were there and I walked away thinking about four specific things that I want to share with you.

Gifts Can Change The World
There were multiple organizations involved in making sure the Johnson Space Center was able to get off the ground. In their publications they write, “On Sept. 19, 1961, NASA announced that the $60 million manned space flight laboratory would be located in Houston on 1,000 acres of land to be made available to the government by Rice University. The land was owned by Humble Oil Co. [now Exxon] and given to Rice to give to the government. In addition to acquiring title to this donation from Rice, the federal government subsequently purchased an additional 600 acres needed to give the site frontage on the highway. A 20-acre reserve-drilling site fell within NASA’s total 1,620-acre site.” It turns out that a corporation gave the university the land who in turn sold over 1600 acres to the government for $20. The land was worth much more than that, but both Humble Oil and Rice University believed this was a project worthy of their gift. They could have extracted a large sum of money for this project had they chose that route. Instead, they believed this would be a significant project that had the ability to change the world for generations to come. When you believe in something strong enough, be willing to give even when you have the opportunity to get. Your gift may help change the world for generations. We do not always have to extract a return. Sometimes we need to believe in things enough that we are willing to give.

Collaboration Is Important
One of the things they point out to you is that the center is designed to look like a college campus. This serves a two-fold purpose. The first is to encourage innovation. The second is to encourage collaboration. Scientists and engineers from around the world come together to achieve some pretty incredible things in space that have allowed for advances in many industries on the earth. All of us are smarter than one of us. Collaboration is important in every area of our life. I have told our staff numerous times that I have the ability to make a wrong decision, but it is rare that all of us collectively will make the wrong decision. When people collaborate they have a better chance of reaching the best idea and not just a good idea.

They Have A Back-Up Plan
One of the rooms that we visited was Mission Control. There was no one in the mission control room we visited, however, we could see on the video screens an identical room in another part of the building that was actually manned. Both rooms were set up exactly the same and were both operational. If one room went down or there was some kind of problem they could immediately transfer to the other room and continue leading the operation. You could see secondary plans in almost every area we visited. Why? Because everything does not always go as planned and sometimes you need another option. Putting all of your eggs in one basket puts all of your eggs at risk. There are so many areas of your life where diversification and a back-up plan can reduce the pain when one thing does not work out like expected. If you live your life believing everything will work perfectly you will often find yourself disappointed and many times in crisis.

They Have A Long-Range Vision
In our lifetime most of us are familiar with the Apollo space missions and the Space Shuttle. As a matter of fact, we recently celebrated the 50th anniversary of Apollo 11 and our first space landing. The current long-range project goes past the moon to Mars and beyond. It is called ORION (pronounced O-Ryan). Engineers and astronauts are working on this project to go to Mars between 2030 and 2045. Not tomorrow. Not next year. Possibly as many as 25 years away. But they are planning for it today. Their vision is bigger than 2019. They have a vision that goes beyond the lifetime of some of those working on it. We all need a vision for our life. Where are you headed and how will you get there? Think about today. Live in today. But live it knowing that it will have an effect of tomorrow.

What are you learning today? You will be in an environment that will allow you to learn something if you will just open your eyes or take a few minutes to listen. As you learn you will grow. As you grow, everyone around you will benefit.

4 Things (and a bonus) We Can All Apply From George H. W. Bush

As a part of my recent writing about things I am learning and taking away from different places, I want to share with you some things I took away from a recent visit to the George H. W. Bush Presidential Library and Museum. This was an important visit to me. He was part of the first presidential election that I can recall. He ran against Ronald Reagan in the primaries and later became his running mate as Vice President. He would also win the election for President of the United States in 1988, which was the first year I was eligible to vote. In my adult life, the Bush family has been one of the most prominent names in culture.

There are so many things we could take away from his life and his service, and I certainly have some other notes that I want to remember. But I was walked through this library and museum, there were four things that I think all of us can learn from and grow a little ourselves.

He Loved His Family

First, he loved Barbara. This has been prominently on display for the world to see recently as they both passed away less than one year apart. As the country mourned their passing, one thing that was highlighted over and over again was their love for one another. The letters they wrote to one another over the years showed the depth of the bond that they had. As with any marriage that is strong, that loved spilled over into how they loved their family. It has been said that the best gift a parent can give their children is to love their mother or father well. Not only does it set an example, but it helps them see how much you love them. In spite of pressure-packed schedules their entire married life, they were intentional about time with their family and letting one another know how important they were.

Family Affected How They Treated Others

Their strong family bonds and their love for one another affected how they treated people outside of their family. There are several stories that have been shared over the years from people who had the opportunity to spend time with them and how loved they felt. They treated people with respect and dignity. Even in moments of deep disagreement, there was respect shown. No one is without moments when we fail. But the Bushes have a lifetime of examples of how they treated other people well.

He Gained Lots of Experience

Possibly the one thing I noticed above all else was the fact that we may not have had a president with a more broader palette of experience that “41” as he was affectionately called. He served in the Navy. He started and ran a successful business. He served in the US House of Representatives, as an Ambassador to the United Nations, Liaison to China, Director of the CIA, professor at Rice University, Director of the Council on Foreign Relations and Vice President before becoming President of the United States. That is an extremely broad resume and he most likely would have been president for two terms without Ross Perot running as a third-party candidate. The experience that he gained through each of those jobs allowed him to have a broad impact but also allowed him to have an influence on a large stage. Don’t be afraid to gain a breadth of experience. The broader your experience the better you can lead.

He Did Not Forget People Who Helped Him

Not only did he write notes to Barbara, but 41 was famous for notes that he wrote to everyone. He regularly thanked people for their help or reminded them he was thinking about them. Often these notes were about something that many people had long forgotten. One of the notes on display that stuck out to me was one written to the commander who taught him how to fly in the Navy. He was President at the time, but the note accompanied a photo of one of the planes he learned to fly. He thanked that commander for being so patient with him during training and told him he appreciated him for setting him on a course that would later allow him to become President. He did not have to remember that commander, but he chose to not only remember him but to thank him as well. You did not arrive where you are on your own. Don’t forget the people who helped you get here. Maybe even take the time to tell them.


As I was writing this I remembered an observation my wife Barbara made while we were going through the library. She is going through her own transformation at the moment but she remarked about halfway through as she looked at photos that Barbara Bush never tried to look young or hip. She accepted who she was and loved being a wife and mother. Her hair was white at an early age. She did not try to be on the cutting edge of fashion. By some standards, she even looked “old” in her 40’s. Barbara (my wife) was impressed at how comfortable Barbara Bush was in her own skin. I think it is an area where all of us could grow. Learn to be comfortable with who we are instead of trying to be what we think someone else wants us to be. Wife and mother are two of the most important jobs in the world.

Don’t forget to take an opportunity to reflect every time you have a new experience. You may find certain things you can apply to your own life that will make a difference. Live a life that is constantly growing.

4 things that stuck out to me about Lyndon B Johnson

One of my favorite things to do is learn about former US Presidents; how they lived their early life and the path they took to the presidency. When we travel and are close to a presidential library, we try to visit. On a recent tour of Texas, we stopped at a couple. The first presidential library we toured was the Lyndon Baines Johnson Library and Museum on the campus of the University of Texas at Austin. 


Johnson was the 36th President of the United States serving from 1963-1969. He was serving as president when I was born. A Democrat from Texas, he served in the House of Representatives as well as the Senate before being selected to be Vice President for John F. Kennedy. I always like to listen to the speeches that were selected and look at the quotes they have posted. As I visited the library and museum, there were a few things that stuck out to me that I wanted to share.


You Don’t Always Get To Choose The Time

The country has a vibrant young president with small children whom people love when a sniper suddenly kills President Kennedy in Dallas. It is then that Lyndon Johnson is sworn in as President while on Air Force One. He may have had aspirations to be president during his life, but this was not the timing he had in mind. As Jackie Kennedy stood on one side and his wife Lady Bird Johnson stood on the other, he took the oath of office to be president. A nation that is in crisis, grieving, and mourning is now suddenly his to lead. This is not a moment anyone would want. But when you are the Vice President you have to be prepared. When it is time to lead you must lead even if the circumstances are not ideal. As a matter of fact, your time may come at the worst possible moment. It is in those moments when we must step up and use the abilities we have been honing. We do not always get to choose the timing. We do get to choose how we lead in those moments.



In a speech given at the University of Michigan in 1964, Johnson laid out 16 goals he had for achieving the “Great Society”. He had a vision for America and the way we would arrive there was through these 16 goals. Do you have a vision for your life? Your business or your family? If so, how do you intend on getting there? Setting goals is an effective way to move forward.


He Was Concerned About People

A leader who is not concerned about people is not a good leader. LBJ was concerned about people. He wanted to do something about segregation and racism. He was concerned about the treatment of people of color in the country. He wanted to end racial injustice. He was concerned about poverty. He wanted to put an end to the constant suffering poverty was causing families. He wanted everyone to have an opportunity to get an education. He believed that education would help solve the poverty problem. He wanted to raise the quality of every single American’s life. Great leaders are concerned about people. Poor leaders are only concerned about themselves. 

He Had Priorities and the Country’s Best Interest

LBJ suffered with health problems and was concerned about dying. Though there are varying accounts of what led to not seeking the Democratic nomination for President in 1968, the museum presented the case that his health was failing and he wanted to finish some important legislation. He had to choose whether to campaign or to complete one of his goals. He chose to complete one of his goals and leave the presidency to someone else. After the turmoil with the Vietnam War, he also felt it was time for the country to heal and that someone else might be better to do that. It does not appear that power or position were his most important objectives. His most important goal seemed to be doing what was in the best interest of everyone. Sometimes we can become so enamored with power and position that we forget what is important. We still need to live out our values and priorities and make sure we are putting the interest of others at the front and not just ours.

I am a firm believer you should be learning and growing every day. There are so many people and situations that we pass right through on a daily basis, never taking a second thought about how we could learn from them. This is my big take away from the Johnson Library. I am better if I am learning and growing. 

7 Things I Took Away from Lakewood

Barbara and I visited Lakewood Church in Houston, TX on one of our recent trips. The church and its pastor, Joel Osteen, are controversial for many. I was much more aware of this than Barbara. I still wanted to visit. This is not a post to defend or condemn, so I would ask those comments get shared somewhere else. When traveling, sometimes I visit a church because I want to hear the pastor. Other times I go to check out their facility. Occasionally I just want to see how they do things and experience their service. We got a hotel just across the street from the church and Sunday morning we headed over.

When I visit a church I am always looking for new ideas and better ways to do things. I want to walk the entire complex and take pictures and make notes. I did all of that. Sometimes people wonder what things stick out. Usually, only my staff hears about these things and then still only a few. I just thought I would share publically a few of the notes I made while I visited.

Smiles Matter

I know an image just popped into your head. There are plenty of smiling Joel Osteen jokes. But every volunteer we came in contact with had a smile on their face. As a matter of fact, the young lady who was assigned as our host said that was what caused her to become a volunteer. Pastor Joel had mentioned that if you could smile they could use you and she signed up. I will explain the host situation later. Smiling makes people feel welcome and most often they will smile back. It can change the entire atmosphere of a room. Your smile matters at church, and everywhere else. 

Engagement Is Critical

Occasionally when I visit a church I will let them know ahead of time and they will go out of their way to make me feel welcome. This was a last minute trip so I had not done that. But everywhere we went to that church, a volunteer engaged us. They asked if it was our first time there. They offered to help with any information. One of the people who engaged us was the head of their host ministry. These people specifically engage new people. She went and found us a personal host and gave us each a devotional. They didn’t interact with us because I was a pastor. They interacted with us because they did that for everyone who walked through the door. One of their hosts went from row to row after you were seated to talk with you. Having lots of people was not an excuse. They engaged people and of course, it makes you want to come back.


From the first single note that was played, there was an enormous amount of energy. Every single person on that stage was fully engaged and giving everything they had. When the pastors walked out on the stage a few minutes in to greet and pray, they came with energy. For the first 40 minutes, there was not a single silent moment. It was geared to draw you in and get you engaged in the service. The songs were connected in a theme that just built the energy in the room. Add to that the presence of the Holy Spirit and you have a power packed moment.


In my entire life, I have only been to one other church that spent more time dedicated to prayer than Lakewood. There were pastoral prayers, corporate prayers, extended prayer time to pray for specific needs and a time for people to come to know Jesus at the end of service. The time to pray for specific needs was during the middle of the worship set. They had pastoral staff and prayer team members across the front and at every section in the building. They took time with each person. As long as was needed. This lasted 10-15 minutes. Enough time to sing at least three songs. Prayer is a significant part of their church.


I grew up with testimonies in church. Anyone who wanted to testify could. We even had testimony services. Some were inspiring. Some were embarrassing. Others were just too long. They scare me to death. But during the service, they brought a gentleman and a couple to tell what God had done in their lives. The gentleman was sober for 10 years after finding Christ at the church. The couple’s marriage had been restored and they had learned to handle money and get out of debt through classes at the church. Seeing what God was doing was powerful.

Pastor Was Engaged

There are over 50,000 people each week attending Lakewood. Clearly, he cannot know everyone, but Joel Osteen did his best to engage every single person he could. First service was at 8:30 AM. After that service, he went to the lobby where he did a baby dedication for a family in the church and then greeted anyone who wanted to talk to him until time for the next service. When the service started, he was on the front row worshipping. He hit the stage about two minutes in with energy. He prayed with people at the front during prayer time. He was in the service the entire time except just after prayer time when he went out to collect himself before the message. He was out one song. When service was over he was back in the lobby greeting people. I have been to a lot of megachurches. That is something you just don’t see. For about 6 straight hours there was no letup. I was impressed.

Stand To Acknowledge Christ

He asked them when he got up to preach to stay until the end because it was important. Leaving at the end of the sermon is the worst time to leave by the way. At the end of the sermon, he didn’t ask everyone to stand. He asked those who wanted to know Jesus as their Savior to stand. He was very clear that is was something they could not be ashamed of. That was a new one for me as well. People all over the room were standing. There was a man just to my left with tears flowing down his face. He was having an eternal moment and my heart was thrilled for him. We should not be ashamed to ask people to acknowledge Christ.

You can have the theology debate on another blog. You can learn something from everyone. I learned a few things. I was reminded of a few things. Most importantly I left encouraged. Be a lifelong learner. You will never regret it. 


Why I Choose To Say Happy Anniversary

Social media makes it easy to remember everyone’s birthday. Facebook sends you reminders for everyone on your list of friends who has a birthday. Now, this is beneficial for Facebook to know because it is one more piece of information for them to use for marketing. But it is also a great tool for you to remember the big day for your acquaintances. Snapchat and Twitter offer different reminders and chances for you to wish a happy birthday to someone you know as well.

For a few years, I did my very best to keep up with wishing everyone a happy birthday, but it became quite hectic with a full friend list. They make some apps that can help with that. In general, when people write a birthday message on my wall, I do my best to read it and at least acknowledge it by liking the post. Every single one of those means something to me and I believe they do to most of the people who receive them. I don’t discourage anyone from offering birthday wishes to people. It can lift the spirits of the people reading them. I still do occasionally myself.

What I have chosen to do every day is to make sure I wish every married couple that I can a happy anniversary. Facebook makes this easier because they have picked up on that so when people make an anniversary post, it almost always shows up in my news feed. It is not that birthdays are less important. You are alive and that is an accomplishment. But it doesn’t take a lot of effort to get older. My life experience has shown me that it takes a lot of effort to stay married.

I admire people who work at their marriage. Barbara and I know from personal experience the investment it takes to make a marriage successful. It requires individual growth as well as growth as a couple. This requires time and intentionality. Good marriages do not happen by accident.

So, if I miss your birthday, it is not that I do not like you. But I promise you I will do my best to wish you a happy anniversary. Because I know it took some work to get there, I want to cheer you on to have many more great years together.

Three Easy Traps

Have you ever looked back at a situation and asked yourself “How did that happen to me?”. I have found myself in more than one of these situations. Our path is filled with traps that we easily fall into if we are not careful. Some of them are unseen but most are avoidable. The problem is that we typically don’t realize we are in a trap until it has cost us something.

Some traps are set intentionally by other people. They work for their benefit. They want to sell you something or use your time. Even in those situations, we have a choice we can make. My experience is that when I find myself in one of these traps I was either not paying attention or I decided I could overcome the odds. There are several of these that I could talk about, but I want to talk about the three most common traps that I have seen.


Spend Too Much
An overwhelming majority of Americans live paycheck to paycheck. Bankruptcies are high. Debt is at a staggering rate. All of these things point to the clear sign that we have fallen into the trap of spending too much. The unfortunate part is that many people are oblivious to this until they are in real trouble. Sometimes we excuse the problem with things we call “emergencies” or “seasons of life” believing that we will get out of it shortly only for the pattern to continue while we get deeper in a hole. We can even go as far as to believe we are “making an investment” when it is just going to break our back with debt that may never pan out the way we hoped. Spending too much can create stress which affects our body and puts tension in our relationships. We can get out of this trap but it can be painful and can often take years. Our best option is to stay aware of our financial situation.

Wait Too Long
The opportunity of a lifetime is only as good as the lifetime of the opportunity. Doors do not stay open forever. Waiting too long is rarely good. There will be the occasional situation when waiting longer provides us some benefit, but in general, it causes us to miss many opportunities. There are a couple of things that cause us to wait too long. Some people are simply procrastinators. They are going to put everything off until the last possible moment. It doesn’t matter if it is something insignificant or extremely important. Their default programming procrastinates. Eventually, this catches up with you and there is always a price to pay. Another thing that impacts waiting is fear. We are afraid. We can be afraid of a number of things. It might be a fear of failure. It could be fear of the unknown. We might even be afraid it will work out. Fear has the ability to paralyze us so that nothing can get done. If you are a procrastinator, it is something you need to work to overcome. If you constantly fight fear, find small ways to succeed until you gain the needed confidence. Don’t allow waiting to become a trap.

Going Too Fast
We live in a world that is enamored with speed. Everything is about how much faster and easier we can make something happen. Now more than ever we have to be aware of the speed with which things are moving. But it is also possible to just go too fast. At certain speeds, we depend on our memory functions. Impulse tends to take over and we do what we can see at the moment. When we are moving too fast we often do not take the time to get wise counsel about the things we are considering. There are only a limited number of things we can consider at high speeds. Sometimes important things get ignored that will cost us in the long run. I tend to lean more to speed than I do to waiting and may even think it is usually better. But know that speed can be a trap and may do more harm than good at times.

Maybe one or more of these have caused you problems. We may fall into a trap from time to time, but we can miss most of them if we are a little more self-aware. Wherever you struggle the most is a great place to start. It is always better to avoid a trap than to have to escape one.

The Difference Between Relief and Help

In a devotion I was reading recently I read a quote that really struck me. It said, “Many of us pray and pray hard but very few of us actually submit”. There are many things that I pray about on a daily basis. Currently, there are a few things that I am praying about diligently. They are things that are really important to me. As a matter of fact, when I read that quote, one of those things immediately came to my mind. I began to ask myself if I was really submitting to God about that issue. Did I want help or just relief?

I have been pondering this question now for a few days. There is a significant difference between the two. I know for myself that I am often looking for relief but I am not very open to the help. As a pastor, I encounter people on a regular basis who have that same struggle. I would even say that the majority of people are looking for relief and not help. Debt relief. Marriage relief. Pain relief. Work relief. Most often we are not looking for help. You may be asking, ”What is the difference?”. This is my summary of the difference between help and relief.

Very few people are interested in changing their actions. What they really want is the removal of the consequences of their actions. When we get relief, we are usually not solving a problem but only temporarily removing the symptoms of the problem. The debt consolidation loan gives us temporary relief but when our actions do not change we end up in a worse position than where we were before. We get pain relief without discovering what is actually causing the pain, or if we know, we choose not to make the changes to ease the pain permanently. Sometimes pain relief can mask something that is causing us great harm. Even the method of relief can be harmful to us. I prefer not to take a lot of medicine but if I get a headache I have no problem taking an Excedrin. But these pain relievers over time can do our body harm and cause other problems. There are certain things that I know to do to help avoid headaches, but sometimes I choose the relief over the help. Even when we have relief at work unless we quit we still have to go back. Our relief is temporary. There may be things that you can do on your job that requires help instead of relief and you may enjoy it more.

The most difficult part of getting help is coming to the realization that we do not have all of the answers and we cannot do it alone. Getting help requires us to acknowledge that someone may have a better perspective, idea or that we are just not superhuman. The other thing about help is that sometimes the results are not immediate. We can take a pill and get almost immediate relief. Sometimes with help, we do not see any improvement immediately. A few years back I went to the chiropractor for an issue with my back and it took several visits before I saw any improvement at all. Most help requires a certain amount of discipline. If we are getting financial advice, it requires us to be disciplined to follow a plan to get the results that we want. If we are getting marriage counseling, we have to put into practice the things that we are seeing and understanding. Help allows other people and information into our lives to make it better over a long period of time.

We may not get the immediate relief we desire when we seek help, but the long term health of just about anything is better when we accept the help we need and stop masking the symptoms with relief. Sometimes relief might be necessary and even acceptable, but help is what most of us need. Be willing to accept it.

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I currently serve as Lead Pastor at Open Door Church and I am a certified trainer & coach with the John Maxwell Team. I am also an Associate Trainer with EQUIP training leaders around the world. I currently own two businesses related to the foodservice equipment industry. I am a certified speaker, teacher and coach with the John Maxwell Team. I can offer you workshops, seminars, keynote speaking, and coaching, aiding your personal and professional growth through study and practical application of John’s proven leadership methods. Working together, I will move you and/or your team or organization in the desired direction to reach your goals.